Friday, November 25, 2011

Do Parents Have a Favorite?

Email from Ellie to Mom (Monkey) and Faffy:

my friends discussed and concluded that every parent actually does have a favorite child. i hope it isnt true - i really want to love all my kids equally. getting nervous about new baby's effect on our little family. im sure no matter what its going to be tough on mister t.

also, I'm really excited to see you guys - we have been talking to Teddy about your visit and this morning when he woke up he said "see monkey? see unca john?"

it was so cute! he's definitely excited too.


Email from Faffy to Ellie:

There's plenty of love to go around.  A little hugging goes a long ways.
love, Pop

I'm looking forward to Xmas!


Email from Ellie to Faffy:

me too!

:)

also - i think kids probably FEEL that way more than its actually true.


Email from Mom (Monkey) to Ellie and Faffy:

You all will do just fine, just like families have been doing for hundreds of thousands of years. You won't be perfect parents, you'll just do the best you can. And even if you find it easier to get along with one kid more than the other, you'll have so much fun as a family of four, I absolutely guarantee that in a year, you won't remember what in the world you were so worried about. 

I think having a "special day" with each kid was a good idea of mine. :) I highly recommend it.

I think I favored John as a child, but I'm not so sure that was a negative thing for any of you guys.

love you lots,
mama

Friday, November 18, 2011

Hallo Love

Email from Ellie to Dan:

Hallo love. Hard to sleep without you. I miss you sooo much. Glad you'll be home tomorrow. You're mah sweetie pie.

Hope you're havin a good call night. You deserve it. You're a fantastic husband.

Love you,

Wifey



Email from Dan to Ellie:

Aww well I love you too honey. Mah baby love. I had a decent call night, some annoying stuff but not horrible. Thank you so much for the ride last night... made such a difference.
Hope you have a good day. Call me when you're at the OB appt... I might be able to come say hewwo.

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Moms Concerned About Street Safety

Email from Ellie to Dan, Mom (Monkey), Faffy, Tabie, and John:

just read a case where a driver quickly backed out of a driveway and into a street, hitting a child on a tricycle who was pedaling over the driveway from one section of sidewalk to another.

it scared me - i realized that i often walk or bike over driveways or lot exits without being as cautious as i should about looking for cars entering or exiting.

please be very, very careful when walking (or biking) on sidewalks when you come up to entries/exits for parking lots, driveways, or apartment complexes.

love you,

Ellie



Email from Mom (Monkey) to Ellie, Dan, Faffy, Tabie, and John:

I think the real lesson is: never ever ever ever trust people in cars. Always assume they don't see you, and ride (or walk) accordingly (defensively). It always amazes me to see people step right out into the street when they get a walk signal, even though there's a car right there about to turn right. I realize they have the right of way, but what if the driver is texting, or so busy looking to the left they forget or whatever. Scary.

The second lesson is: no matter how safe your street seems, never let a child ride unattended if they have to cross driveways, until they are old enough to know to stop at every single driveway or exit and look for cars.

That's why I personally love trails.

love you,
mama

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Trip Planning

Email from Ellie to Marilyn (Nana), Gene (Grandpa), Hayley, Jay, and Dan:

Hey fam,

We are SO excited to see you all next week!

Just a reminder that it might be cold while you're here, so make sure you bring a warm jacket, hat, and gloves.

Teddy continues to visit the neighborhood playground and the chickens around the block despite the windy and wet, he is a trooper.

We were also thinking about going to the zoo one of the nights that you're all here. there is a "zoo lights" event going on that was pretty fun last year. Lots of holiday lights everywhere in the shape of animals.

I'm sure our main activity will be cooking and eating, though. :)

See you soon!

Love,

Ellie, Dan, and Mister T



Email from Marilyn (Nana) to Ellie:

Hey Ellie,
Can't wait. Will bring winter gear--how thoughtful of you to remind us. "Zoo
lights" sounds like great fun.
Love,
nana

Baby Blanket

Email from Ellie to Mom (Monkey):

hey mumsers,

where did you get the super-soft baby blanket that you gave to teddy? we want to get one for little XY too.


teddy snuggles with it EVERY night, he is very attached - and likes to use it as a blanket too.

not surprising given how soft it is i guess.



Email from Mom (Monkey) to Ellie:

Oh crap. I got it at Junior Towne in Anchorage, but they went out of business. However, I'll bet it you took it in to a baby shop, they may recognize it? Does brand still show? We gotta find it! Maybe I can look while I'm there...

love you,
mama


Email from Ellie to Mom (Monkey):

looked at the tag - its a Little Giraffe blanket.

its SO expensive though!! now i remember you saying something about the price when you first gave it to teddy. but i dont remember it being THAT bad. wheweee...



Email from Mom (Monkey) to Ellie:

You could let me give it to little ???? as a baby present like i did w tedster! I'd love that.


Email from Ellie to Mom (Monkey):

well, that would be nice - but you sure its worth the money? its not cheap!


Email from Mom (Monkey) to Ellie:

Gosh yes. What could be more important than a "transitional object"? :)

I sent it to your place to "Baby Swanson". So that's done. I'm wondering if we should buy a couple of extras now--reading the reviews, EVERYONE loves them, and often have to replace them because they get worn out.

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Baby Shower?

Email from Leslie to Ellie:

ellie can i throw you a baby shower? you can tell me who you want to invite - and where you want to have it etc. 

love you!
les


Email from Ellie to Leslie:

hey Les,

that's really nice of you - but i feel like we already have everything we need thanks to teddster. is someone throwing you a baby shower in eugene already? i bet prairie and jordan have that covered, they are such good party throwers. :)

do you have the date of your 5 month ultrasound appointment yet (when you find out the gender - unless you decide to wait)? i want to put it on my calendar.

also, my little guy is viable this Friday. his kicking is visible from the outside of my stomach now. definitely feeling big and starting to look forward to him being out of my body. curious to hear what you're going through these days - hopefully second trimester is treating you well.

love you muchly mrs leslie boneyard! say hi to adam for me.


Email from Leslie to Ellie:

Are you sure eldawg? let me know if you change your mind. someone is going to throw one for us here. but i don't know if i want one either actually. just cuz everyone we know just bought us wedding gifts. we do have an appt for the ultrasound - dec 12! and we will be finding out the gender. will let you know asap of course. that's so cool about your little man! i'm really excited to feel some fluttering in there. I've been feeling a lot better. no barfing anymore. woo hoo! can't wait to see you mama swanson!

love
les


Email from Ellie to Leslie:

You def need one. Babies need a lot of gear! Be careful if you get a used crib btw, different safety/choking standards now.

I can help you put a registry together if you want. You could only show it to your relatives/people you feel comfortable with - but people will ask you if you have one.

Also... Babies are more fun to shop for than weddings bc they have no personal preferences yet. Babies will wear anything, and they don't care if their toys don't match. :)

Love you!

- Ellie


Email from Leslie to Ellie:

Ellie I would love your help on putting a registry together! Maybe when I visit in Dec! We're hoping to do a co-sleeper but I'm not sure one will work with our bed. So so so so excited to see your belly!! and to have our little ones 3 months apart!!!

So glad I have you to support and advise me. I've been using your hairband pants trick. Works like a charm.

LOVE
les


Email from Ellie to Leslie:

Hey Les, I have a co-sleeper I can give you guys, we are not planning on using it this time around. It either attaches to beds or you can bring the side up so that it's a crib. It doesn't last as a crib once your baby can pull himself up, that isn't until 7-9 months or so if I recall... But that time goes by fast. 

Glad you asked me before putting it on a registry!

I have another idea for you - include the names and addresses of local consignment/used baby stores as well as a link to a baby registry so that people can look there for stuff. Makes the money go a lot further than getting new things. And I have a website where it's a "universal" baby registry, you can add things to it from any website (rei, baby gap, etc) and friends can check off what they purchase off-line.

Also, glad the hairband trick is working!

I can give you all my maternity clothes if you can hold out until I'm due. I also have some I never wear that I can give you. But - you are sig smaller than I am now, it might not fit. I will have u try stuff on if you're interested while you're here. Also have a couple baby books for you. DONT let me forget!! You can also pick up the co-sleeper when you come.

Love,
Ellie


Email from Leslie to Ellie:

Ellie that sounds wonderful!! THANK YOU so much! And of course we'll give it all back so you'll be well equipped for #3!!! Love the registry idea too. You are officially my pregnancy mentor!!

Hey do you have pregnancy brain right now? I think I might be starting to show some signs. Forgetting things etc. But I'm still able to write and focus and all that so I don't mind.

love you so & see you soon!

les

ps - i will have to bring the dogs when i come cuz adam will be gone but buster can just stay in his house and pansy can stay in whatever room you want her in. they should be fine. though of course they always add a little chaos.

Friday, November 11, 2011

Forever n Ever

Email from Ellie to Dan:

love you forever n ever n ever n ever.

hope you're having an okay call night.

my knee feels better! im tempted to sleep with the brace on, not sure i can get it on by myself tomorrow. (hard to bend down)


Email from Dan to Ellie:

I love you. Meh kinda crappy night but not horrible. Bout to start the first of two hard surgeries.

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Knees

Email from Ellie to Dan:

They hurt so bad I can't sleep. Looked it up online, gonna take some Tylenol. Hoping it's from wearing unsupportive shoes. Apparently pretty common with preggo. Hurt soooo bad. :(


Email from Dan to Ellie:

okay let's look downstairs for some more supportive shoes or buy some new ones. I will also pull out my knee braces to try.


Email from Ellie to Dan:

Yeah I would like to try knee braces. I'm feeling slightly less in pain today (so far at least), still bad but not excruciating like last night. Im really hoping it's bc I wore diff shoes on my walk with t yesterday morning. Forgot to tell you about that - we went to go visit the chickens, and the kitty came with us the entire way. Pretty cute. Anyway, I hope it keeps getting better. From my research online sounds like knee pain is really common with pregnancy, should go away after like before, but no real way to treat it.

Love you so much hon. Wish you weren't on call tonight. I miss you.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

You and Me

Email from Dan to Ellie:

We're meant to be together, and we always will be together, and I will do whatever it takes to make you happy about those two facts. I will cherish you and honor you. I will support you and respect you. When you are going through tough times like you are right now I will step up and let you lean on me and I will even carry you if you want. I will appreciate the work you do around the house and the time that you take to raise our son. I will try to help you get sleep when you need it, and when you have projects due or studying to do I will watch Teddy more and I will express my pride and respect for you. I truly do think that your school is just as important as my work, and I acknowledge that you work as hard as any human being can possibly work. You're an incredible person and every day I am proud that you're my wife. I brag about you all of the time and I will try to express to you how proud of you I am because you need to know. I've loved you from the minute I first laid eyes on you and I will never stop loving you. This whole thing isn't just about pride and love and words, it's about actions and deeds (and time and sleep), and I will try to make my actions and deeds reflect my pride and love, and I will try to make these words more than just words.

Sunday, November 6, 2011

Can I Visit You Guys?

Email from Leslie to Ellie:

ellie can i visit you guys dec 3rd? i would come in the evening and stay the night...

i know it's way in advance! but i'll be driving adam to the airport that evening so i will be in your neighborhood! you are going to be SSO preggers by then!

love
lester


Email from Ellie to Leslie:

Yes absolutely! Would love to have you. :)

I feel like I'm soooo preggo already...


Email from Leslie to Ellie:

yay! can't wait to see you!!!

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

My Phone Died

Email from Dan to Ellie:

My phone died . Crap. Im at henrys tavern downtown.  Im using scotts phone to email. I will get a ride home with nick.  So don't pick me up.  Love you!
I hope you get this.



Email from Ellie to Dan:

I got it. Love you!

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Too Late To Say Goodbye?

Email from Ellie to Mom (Monkey) and Faffy:

hey guys,

keep thinking about granddaddy, sad that he's not doing very well health-wise.

be SURE to tell linda, erik, and chad that he's going down-hill so that they can call him and say anything that needs to be said. Not that there probably is, but its nice to have the choice.

Love you,

Ellie



Email from Faffy to Ellie:


Hi, Ellie,
Nice that you are thinking of GD.  Unfortunately, I do not think he is able now to carry on a telephone conversation.  He can hardly communicate even in person.  Most likely will go on Hospice care regimen this week.  Hi to all.
Love,
Pop


Email from Ellie to Faffy:


Hey pop. Sad to hear that. I love you. Let's skype soon.

Love,

Ellie


Email from Mom (Monkey) to Ellie:

it's a really good idea--everyone knows except Erik--I'll remind pop to call him tomorrow.

However, it's probably a bit late. I was kicking myself for not telling G'daddy how much he's meant to me before he got so sick he probably can't understand. I tried to say a couple things to him this visit but he didn't respond. Don't know if he even heard, or maybe it just didn't compute, or maybe he was embarrassed. Anyway, I keep doing that over and over and over---not letting people know how special they are until it's way too late.

It IS sad, but mostly for us. He's had a long, productive, successful life, and his body is giving out. It's mostly for us that it's hard. I just wish we could be around him when he dies, instead of him passing on alone. It won't matter to him, I don't think (and neither does pop) but it matters to me--a lot.

We asked his doctor to get Hospice involved--they're REALLY good at estimating how long people have to live, and ensuring that they're comfortable and at peace at the end of life, so I'm hopeful they'll let us know in time.

We love you honey.

Mama



Email from Ellie to Mom (Monkey):

It might still nice to have a conversation, to say you love him, even if you dont get to say anything meaningful you get to think it and express it in small ways. just saying "i love you" and really, really meaning it is a good thing. i think erik has made a real effort to have his kids get to know gdaddy, im sure they would like to talk with him.

i keep thinking about him dying alone, too. really sad. :(

thats the problem with living far apart.... i wish we'd moved gdaddy to seattle when he first moved out of the house. then we could go see him a lot more easily. oh well. live and learn.

i agree that it wont matter to gdaddy, but its just not what he deserves. he has a lot of family and he has been really good to all of us. :(

i know everybody is busy... but if it were MY faffy (or monkey) i wouldnt be okay with the situation. of course, you guys are different people - i dont think you would live so far away from all of us, you're not as attached to a house/place as gdaddy. (but even if you were i would have moved you closer.) just sayin....

love you,

ellie




Email from Mom (Monkey) to Ellie:

I am determined to make it as easy as possible for you guys when it comes to situations like this. Whenever we mentioned to those guys (when you guys were little) the possibility of moving to west coast, they'd poo-poo it, and say things like,"we never want to be a burden on our kids". As if worrying about your parents, and missing them, and feeling terribly guilty for having to choose between your career and kids vs caring for your parents isn't at all a burden! Anyway, we'll move anywhere to make it easier for you guys I promise. 
I too wish we had insisted on moving him to Seattle when he had to move out of house too. However, I think he would've refused then. He's pretty stubborn, plus he has a lot of strong connections there. We will never know I guess. 
Gotta go night night. You too. 
Love you
Mama

Friday, October 28, 2011

Sorry!!!!!

Email from Dan to Ellie:

Hey baby I am so so so so sorry about my alarm this morning. I remembered that I forgot to turn it off a few hours ago, and I was walking towards my car to come back and turn it off but then I got another consult. Busy busy night. Anyhow I'm very sorry. I'll make it up to you with lots of love and comfort food this weekend. You can sleep in tomorrow and Sunday!! I hope you're feeling okay.
Bye love. About to start that big surgery. I actually think that I don't have to do the second one though, but not sure yet.
Kisses and hugs to the little one for me.


Email from Ellie to Dan:

Aw sweetie I love you. It's okay. I got a good nights sleep. Hope you have a good day.

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

I Want to See Pics of Your Belly!

Email from Leslie to Ellie:

how are you feeling? i want to see pics of your belly! i feel like my stomach is humungous already! it seems like it should be totally obvious to everyone, but i guess it's not. what are you guys being for halloween? 

loveyou!

les

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

What Big Brothers Are For

Email from Ellie to Monkey, Faffy, and Dan:

hopefully this isnt teddy when the new baby comes!

:)



Email from Faffy to Ellie:

But of course not!

Sunday, October 16, 2011

Book Recommendations, Skyping, and Grandpa's Birthday

Email from Marilyn (Nana) to Ellie:

Hey Ellie,
 
Grandpa and I both loved Lisa See's books: Shanghei Girls and Dreams of Joy--best read in that order. I liked them even better than Peony in Love.
 
So impressed with the new skills of our genius grandson!
 
love,
nana


Email from Ellie to Marilyn (Nana):

I just downloaded both to my iPhone. Will be a fun treat for the end of the semester. :)

Thank you!

I read some of the reviews, hopefully I can manage to hold out and be patient.

We should skype after t wakes up from his nap.

Love,

Ellie



Email from Marilyn (Nana) to Ellie:

I loved those books sooo much.
We're going out to dinner and a walk on the beach for grandpa's
birthday--leaving around 4:00--should be back by 8:00 or so. We'll give you
a call when we get back.

Love,
Nana

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Deja Vu

Email from Mom (Monkey) to Ellie:

Went into New Sagaya's today to pick up a few things. I suddenly got a sense of deja vu, all those times I'd run in to pick up a few things for the family dinner. I got all choked up. I miss those days SO MUCH--when I got to be with you guys every single day, and didn't even appreciate it half the time.

Love you lots and lots and lots,
mama

Saturday, September 24, 2011

Grit and the 2nd Trimester

Email from Ellie to Leslie:

What do you think about this crazy new idea that kids need grit to succeed?


Email from Leslie to Ellie:

I like it.

that's something we can tell our kids about when they're struggling with something. or ourselves!

so tired lately! sleeping like crazy. i need more exercise. how are you feeling?

love
les


Email from Ellie to Leslie:

I'm feeling great - 2nd trimester is easier than 1st. Being sleepy all the time is normal, your body is working hard even when you're sleeping. Get plenty of sleep, drink water, and don't worry about how much (or whether) you eat. A lot of women lose weight during first trimester bc feel icky.

2nd trimester you get energy and verve bam though. What are your plans for weekend? We are thinking about going to fall festival in Corvallis tomorrow...

Love you!

- Ellie


Email from Leslie to Ellie:

Good advice. Will do! I feel guilty sleeping so much but i just need to get over that. The corvallis thing sounds fun - i think our neighbors are going. i am working this weekend (have to write my syllabus and get ready for classes next week). adam is gone on a camping trip. 

hope we get to hang out soon!

love
les

Thursday, September 22, 2011

College Advice

College Advice

Health:

Don't eat disgustingly good food.  It's more disgusting than good.

Go into the city at least once a month.

Go to class.

Exercise regularly, at least three hours a week of vigorous exercise, without fail.  Nothing else you do will pay such big dividends in your overall happiness.

If you feel tired, rather than increasing your caffeine intake, make an effort to get more sleep.


Studying:

If you are struggling with something, teach it.  Nothing is so effective for real learning as having to explain it to someone else.

Don't ask a question if you already know the answer.

Do all of the recommended preparation.


Friendship:

Volunteer regularly, right from the start.  You will enjoy life far more, make more and better friends, and make better-informed life decisions, if you are constantly making a real contribution to something more important than yourself.

Listen 80% of the time, talk 20%.

You can be friendly without being friends. Be friendly to all - but pick your friends wisely. Don't let friends just "happen." Notice who you admire, who is interesting, who has a good attitude - and seek that person out. Spend time with people worth spending time with, people who make you feel re-energized and positive.

Some people do not treat others with respect. Try to avoid these people, rather than talking/confronting them. It's not worth your energy.


Drinking:

If you drink a little bit and feel good, drinking more will not make you feel better.

Watch out for each other. Notice if a friend isn't feeling well or if someone is trying to take advantage of how many drinks s/he has had. Ask your friends to watch out for you.

Pre-partying with your closest friends is generally more fun than the actual party. Make a music playlist, play a racy board game, get ready to go out together, be silly and uninhibited - those are the weekend times you'll remember and cherish most. (And the times you'll talk about at reunions and at each others' weddings.)


Dating:

Be brave but don't be pushy. Don't hesitate to ask someone out on a date, but if s/he says no - shrug, smile, and change the subject. S/he will respect you for having the self-confidence to ask, and also the self-confidence to maintain your sense of self-worth despite rejection.

Only one relationship is meant to "work out." Allow yourself to experience what does and doesn't work for you.

Once you realize that a romantic relationship isn't going to work out, it is kinder and more respectful to be up-front with your feelings. It's tough to end a relationship, but everyone deserves a partner who reciprocates romantic feelings. It also leaves you open to the possibility of meeting a person who is right for you.

Acknowledge that romance doesn't make any sense. Unlike friendships, romance has a nonsensical, irrational element. Remember that a person can (and should) respect you, like you, admire you, and believe that you're worthy of love - and simply not feel the romance. Rejection of a romantic relationship should never be a rejection of a person as a human being.

Remember that when someone does not follow the above rules (and treats you as a less worthy person because s/he is not interested in romance) - that reflects poorly on that person. Don't ever let romantic rejection influence your own sense of self-worth, and make it clear that this is how you operate and how you treat others.


General:

Whether studying, hanging out with friends, or dating someone - have fun. Indulge in your enthusiasm. That said, self-denial is under-rated. There's something to be said for restricted exposure to unhealthy pleasures (and all pleasures are unhealthy when unlimited), and focusing on others rather than self-absorbed self-indulgence.

Stick your neck out. Challenge yourself to try new things - a new sport, new activity. Be as involved as you can!


Lock your bike.

Friday, September 16, 2011

It's a Boy!

Email from Ellie to Family:

It's a boy!!

:)



Email from Mom (Monkey) to Ellie:

Whoot whoot! Congratulations!!!!!


Email from Pop to Ellie:

A healthy boy!  Great news!  Love to all. Pop


Email from Tabie (Auntie Oh) to Ellie:

yay!!  Just don't name him Octavian :) Teddster 2?

WOO HOO!!!

Email from Leslie to Ellie:

SO EXCITED AND HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!

just got your messages!!! WOO HOO!!!

teddy's gonna be a big brother!!

love you lady.

talk soon!

Thursday, September 15, 2011

BI, the Little Man, and a Toddler-Proof iPhone Case

Email from Mom (Monkey) to Ellie:

Hey.
We are on our way home from BI--as usual worked like dogs. Pop discovered the "zincs" (discs of zinc you apply to aluminum to retard corrosion) had completely been eaten away, so had to replace. He spent all day yesterday splitting firewood so our new woodshed will be full once its built. I washed and cleaned, oiled all new furniture--pop says we should have a showing!
ANYWAY, no sign of "the little man" yet--did you guys ever find it? Honey vomited early the next am after we'd left-- found one little baby sock (we think) but no man. She's acting fine.
You may be interested in a toddler-proof iPhone case, you can buy one online.
I miss Teddy. (and you of course:)
Love you lots and lots.
Mama

Thursday, September 1, 2011

A Big Ol Hug n Kiss

Email from Dan to Ellie:

hey im stuck doing another surgery. i'll be home HOPEFULLY by 7:30. Im so tired. I love you love you love you. Please give Mr. T a big ol hug n kiss for me.

Friday, August 19, 2011

Yay!

Email from Ellie to Erica:

YAYAYYYYYY!!!!

so excited to see you! we have a room for you now WITHOUT a teddy in it. really really excited to see you erica bear!

:)

Monday, August 15, 2011

Videos

Mom (Monkey):  God he's cute. I love the part where he giggles right after starting "twinkle". 

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Honoring Nancy Wake

Email from Ellie to Erica:

hey erica,

this is an obituary for a REALLY cool lady, written by Adam Bernstein.

here's a quote i thought you'd like, in particular - “He was tall. He could dance the tango. And if you dance the tango with a nice, tall man, you know what eventually will happen, don’t you?”

:)



Nancy Wake, ‘White Mouse’ of World War II, dies at 98


The Gestapo called her “The White Mouse” for the way she deftly avoided their traps.
Nancy Wake, 98, who died of an infection Aug. 7 in London, was one of the most effective and cunning British agents working in German-occupied France during World War II.
A sultry glamour girl before the war, she married a French playboy industrialist whose tastes, like hers, ran to caviar and champagne midmorning and love in the afternoon. They were living in southern France when the war ignited.
She hid downed Allied servicemen at her home and led them over the Pyrenees to the safety of neutral Spain. She later helped organize thousands of French resistance fighters known as the Maquis, by meeting Allied arms drops, distributing weapons and training 7,000 partisans in preparation for the Normandy invasion.
She earned decorations from the British, French and American governments; she was belatedly honored in Australia, where she had grown up. Exact figures are hard to establish, but she was reported to have helped save many hundreds of lives.
Max Hastings, a British journalist and military historian, described her an “ardent warrior, possessed of an endless appetite for sensation.”
As her involvement in the war deepened, Ms. Wake was trained by the British to kill with her bare hands (she delivered a fatal karate chop to a sentry at an arms factory), parachute into enemy-held territory and work a machine gun.
She chomped on cigars and bested guerrilla fighters in drinking bouts. She traveled nowhere without her Chanel lipstick, face cream and a favorite red satin cushion.
“She is the most feminine woman I know until the fighting starts — then she is like five men,” a colleague in the French resistance once said.
With her highly motivated force, Ms. Wake planned and executed a successful raid on a Gestapo garrison and an arms factory in central France in 1944.
The Gestapo placed a large bounty on her head. That she evaded capture and death added to her mystique; one-third of the 39 women serving in the British Special Operations Executive in France did not come home.
She was dauntless. When a German counterattack against the Maquis disrupted lines of communication, Ms. Wake covered 200 kilometers by bike over hostile ground to get and receive crucial messages. She slept in haystacks or in the open during her 72-hour journey, which resulted in reestablishing radio contact with London.
The nature of her work made Ms. Wake cautious. Three French women came to her attention for possibly being spies. Under her interrogation, she became satisfied two were telling the truth. She sentenced the third to death by firing squad.
“I was not a very nice person,” Ms. Wake told an Australian newspaper in 2001. “And it didn’t put me off my breakfast. After all, she had an easy death. She didn’t suffer. I knew her death was a lot better than the one I would have got.
“And if I hadn’t done it,” she added, “and she had got away and reported to the Germans what the Maquis were up to, how could I have ever faced the families of the Maquisards we lost because of it? It was definitely the right thing to do.”
Nancy Grace Augusta Wake, the youngest of six siblings, was born in Wellington, New Zealand, on Aug. 30, 1912. Her father, a journalist, abandoned the family in Sydney. He also sold the family’s home, forcing his wife and their children to find new lodgings.
Ms. Wake left home at 16 and, buffered by a small inheritance from an aunt, booked passage to England.
In London, she bluffed her way into journalism by telling a Hearst newspaper executive that she was fluent in Egyptian— Egypt being a favorite topic of his. She wrote shorthand gibberish that resembled hieroglyphics and passed it off as the language.
The news executive sent her to Paris as a roving European correspondent, where she said she was awakened to the growing atrocities of Adolph Hitler.
In 1939, she married Henri Fiocca, heir to a Marseille shipping concern. She later told the Daily Telegraph: “He was tall. He could dance the tango. And if you dance the tango with a nice, tall man, you know what eventually will happen, don’t you?”
After the Germans rolled into France in 1940, she became an ambulance driver and gradually deepened her involvement in the escape line from her home in Marseille. She hid people on the run, paid exorbitant bribes to prison guards to free those captured by the local authorities and became a dependable courier for the resistance.
She became a threat to the Germans, and her handlers advised her to make her way to England via Gibraltar. Her husband promised to come after settling family business but was shot by the Nazis after refusing to reveal her whereabouts.
With the escape route in constant peril and Germans patrolling the trains, it took several tries before Ms. Wake was able to make it to Spain on the back of a coal truck. She had earlier been forced to jump from a slow-moving train, drawing the fire of German soldiers.
She arrived in England in June 1943, then underwent eight months of training in the Special Operations Executive. She was subsequently parachuted into the Auvergne region of central France as a liaison between London and the Maquis.
After the war, Ms. Wake tried to find a job that suited her energies. She ran unsuccessfully for political office in Australia, returned to England to do intelligence work and, in 1957, married former British air force pilot John Forward. He died in 1997. She never had children.
In recent years, she lived in a nursing home for retired veterans. She passed much of the day clutching a gin and tonic at the nearby hotel bar, the same watering hole where she had her first “bloody good drink” after the war.
Ms. Wake was the subject of two biographies in addition to her 1985 memoir. A TV miniseries aired in the late 1980s; she was typically scornful of its factual liberties.
“For goodness sake, did the allies parachute me into France to fry eggs and bacon for the men?” she asked. “There wasn’t an egg to be had for love nor money, and even if there had been, why would I be frying it when I had men to do that sort of thing?”


Email from Erica to Ellie:

Wow.  Quite a lady!