Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Pregnancy Loneliness

Email from Leslie to Ellie:

Oh my dearest,

Don't feel lonely. I am going to call you tomorrow. I hope I catch you. I understand why it's lonely being pregnant, though. You ARE going through something other people might not be able to relate to. And you can't drink or go out - and that has an isolating effect. Plus, I'm sure your hormones are adding to the awful lonely feeling. Adrienne, the girl in my program who is pregnant said the beginning was the hardest part- her moods were all over and she felt grumpy and sad and awful. But she feels good now, she says. She's due in May. I wish you and her could get together! You need some pregnant friends! I also wish Adam and I lived near you and Dan. Let's make it so, someday, okay? (I want our babies to play together!!) I hope we can visit you this summer. We'll see. It depends how poor I am. But I really hope so! I can't wait to see your big beautiful belly. This lovely pregnant girl in my classes in a constant reminder of you. 

Please don't be sad. You are so so loved. Does Dan make you feel better? Are there any preggers lady groups you could join? What about lamaz (sp) classes? When are those? Or baby health classes. It might be nice to meet some women there...

Let's talk soon. I miss you. You are such a special one. 

love
les

Monday, February 9, 2009

Pregnancy Fears

Email from Erica to Ellie:

Hello, my lovely, beautiful friend.  I know that you're feeling scared and worried right now, but everything is going to be OKAY.  This is going to be one lucky kid to have you for his/her mama.  I am not saying this to dismiss your concerns, though.  I have a lot more to say about it, and will call you as soon as I can so that we can talk.  Although you are a trailblazer with this baby thing, you are definitely not alone.  I love you very much and I'm here for you.  
Much love,
Erica